I got the inspiration for this particular blog post whilst grounding – it’s been helping me come up with A LOT of ideas 🙂
A few people have said to me that I always seem happy. Whilst I am an aspiring ecstatic being, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t moments in my day-to-day fantastical life that challenge me just like anybody else or days when my ego has decided to be in charge and create havoc. The truth is up until a few years ago life was very different for me. I would find myself having a lot of ‘bad days’ and thoughts that the world was against me and my life was spiralling out of control, moan, complain, defend, attack, give excuses bla bla. Life was happening to me, not the other way around!
Whilst what started the ball rolling to the magical life I lead today was definitely changing what I fuelled my body with, this certainly isn’t the be all and end all. So as such, I’m going to leave food completely out of the equation for now (it’s so utterly obvious anyway, how can you eat a lot of dead, deranged (disarranged) food and not feel pretty dead and deranged?) and concentrate instead on the top 5 things I do to live ecstatically happy.
1. Be Grateful
Your day-to-day life is far beyond the wildest dreams of so many millions of people on the planet! Just off the top of my head you have access to as much food as you could care for, shelter, a warm bed, clean air and water, family that love you, friends, a job, your health, your mind, your senses, music and dancing, endless possibilities of wild and wonderful experiences to engage in. What is there not to be ecstatic about? Do you realise how lucky you actually are? Sometimes a little perspective is required. Something I do every day (apart from the days I forget) is to write down a list of things I’m grateful for. I actively encourage you to do this every day, the more you focus on the amazing things already in your experience, the more things will come your way for you to be grateful for! It’s true…or your money back 😉
2. Switch off the telly, put down the paper
I haven’t watched TV (except Poirot, Taggart, Peep Show and the Inbetweeners on the internet so that doesn’t technically count) for over 3 years now. I used to watch 5 hours of TV a day! I have no idea how I’d even find time to watch TV these days, there’s just so many other things to do (ok I am including facebook). More importantly though, I’ve switched off from the tv ‘programming’ telling me what to think, what to buy, what to look like…god so many things not to worry about now! When you don’t watch TV you have so much time and energy to do other stuff (TV totally drains my energy) like read books, see friends, make LOVE, have a life. You can use the time to learn to be, do and have anything you want. Become a cat smuggler, do under-water basket weaving, have a swingers party…
I’m not saying don’t watch TV again but choose the things which will make you feel inspired and uplifted AND LAUGH! The news is the biggest thing I avoid and have avoided for 3 years. I can’t tell you how good it feels not to be constantly bombarded and drip-fed all the negativity and sad tales of economic crisis, murder, rape, war and ‘terror’. People wonder how I can keep up to date with ‘important’ things going on, the answer is, I totally survive. If there is something I need to be aware of then someone tells me or I read it on facebook (without all the melodrama to accompany it). Somebody, somewhere decides what news you hear and how to spin it – usually with a purpose in mind. Don’t believe everything! Not watching or listening to the news has increased my happiness by 4030762%. True!
3. Decide to be happy
It truly is that easy. You can choose to complain or you can choose to accept. That doesn’t mean you won’t feel sad, in pain or angry but complaining is a different matter altogether and really doesn’t alter the situation you’re faced with. Realise that you are in control of how you feel because you are in control of what you think. Thoughts proceed emotions. You can tell yourself how ‘bad’ a situation is or you can look for positives or view it as a learning experience or better still, learn to laugh at how bloody absurd it all is! Ask yourself “Will (insert complaint here) really matter to me one week from now, one month from now, one year from now?” That person driving slowly in front of you won’t matter tomorrow so why make it matter now? Being happy is as simple as making the decision, or understanding, that choosing to feel negative (and it is a choice) about a situation does not change that situation. It’s your ego’s way of telling you that you’ve been hard done by and things should not be the way they are. Newsflash! Things are what they are, accept it, change it as much as you can, move on. Focus on what you desire rather than what is. You create your own reality with your thoughts. Do!
4. Know your power!
I’m absolutely amazed at the number of people who, throughout the week and mostly on facebook, complain about their job. “Oh Monday again”, “Back to the grind”, “This job is shit” etc. etc. Hello? Who’s in control here? Is life happening to you or do you have the power to change your situation in any given moment? I’m not suggesting hand in your notice right here and now but if you’re truly that unhappy (or do you just like to moan?) then take steps NOW to change your situation. Only you can do it. At the very least take five minutes to do some research or buy a book on how to change career. It’s that simple. If not now then when? Not just your job, anything in your life situation that is making you feel less than happy. Switch off the telly and take action on it. Do it now, do it now, do it now! You are where you are today because of decisions you have made up until now and in every moment going forward. Do you realise that just the smallest steps each day towards what you truly desire can set your trajectory on an entirely different playing field?
5. Change your state
This is a biggie that Tony Robbins talks about a lot. Changing your state can happen in an instant. As soon as you find yourself feeling down (because of whatever it is you’re telling yourself) then there are a few things you can do. Physically alter your state. Smile (even if you look like an arse or don’t feel like it) – smiling tricks your brain in to thinking you’re having a great time. It sends out chemicals that make you happy. Everyone wins. Lift your head up, shoulders up and move about. Exercise by itself has been clinically proven to reduce depression. Put on your favourite uplifting music and dance like a total idiot, in your living room, on your bed, in the kitchen (worksurfaces are great), anywhere. Music and dancing really connects us to our body and alleviates sadness. Go on to youtube and watch some comedy sketches. Get outside in nature. Ground to the earth with your barefeet. Jump around. Hire a bouncy castle. Buy a space hopper. Hula hoop. Play a child’s game. Just have fun, that’s what you came here to do isn’t it? Play more, think less.
When you choose to bring more joy, happiness and laughter in to your experience then more of these things come your way. Thoughts become things, choose the good ones!
So there you have it. Bloody easy peasy pants on fire.
This blog was written by Raw Food Scotland's previous owner, Emma Calvert. You can reach her at her new website, https://missmanifestation.com/