So I’m back from my three month hiatus from the blog. I wasn’t in prison if that’s what you’re thinking. No, I just needed to shake things up a bit diet-wise. More on that to follow including the secrets to the actual universe – stay tuned!
A couple of days ago I posted on the RFS facebook page about some shonky raw food advice I’d seen on a forum which essentially advised someone to ‘cut out’ a family member because so-and-so was being judgemental and non-accepting of this person’s raw food vegan diet.
Many of us have been all round the houses explaining, justifying, defending the weirdo things we eat to friends and family and it can be a giant pain in the arse (I wrote about it here). The thing is, cutting a member of your family out of your life completely because they take umbrage at your green smoothie or how many bananas you eat in one day, is a tiny bit mental.
Let me be clear, if your family are demonic lizard people out to bully you about every single life decision you make, including pointing out your chin hair in restaurants and offering you a set of tweezers then by all means get some counselling to talk that shit through. But if the only issue is that they don’t understand, respect or accept what you eat then that is an entirely different kettle of kale crisps.
So here’s the thing. People judge. Welcome to planet Earth. People don’t accept what they don’t understand or fear. People get defensive if they think you are somehow criticizing them by the things YOU do or don’t do. People will be utter shits at times. This is called REALITY.
You want your family/friends to accept and respect what you eat/do? How about you show them the same courtesy? Ah, but you DO respect them for what they eat. Is that true? Only yesterday I found myself (profound) verbally slating my mother whilst perusing her kitchen cupboards because she should (in my mind) know better than to eat some of what lurks in there. I’m just as bloody guilty.
Let’s say YES it is true, you really DO accept and respect what your family eats? OK. In the moment you are angry/upset at their non-acceptance and judgement of your choices you are guilty of non-acceptance and disrespecting their right to not accept and respect your choices. See how that works? Often we’re guilty of the very thing we’re annoyed at others for. You should accept what I eat and by the way I’m not accepting it if you don’t.
Where is it written down that your family should always agree with you and what you do?
The only person that needs to accept what you do is YOU! Don’t burden others with accepting your food choices or anything else for that matter. People have enough on their plates (oh, I do LOVE a good pun) without you telling them ACCEPT WHAT I DO, ACCEPT WHAT I BELIEVE yadda yadda…
I judge, YOU judge, WE all judge for ice cream… or whatever.
The best way to deal with this if it’s showing up in your life right now:
See the bigger picture – food choices are not that important in the grand scheme of things, not when you realise that many people scavenge food from bins just to get something to eat.
Get your ego to fuck off for a bit – this isn’t always all about YOU and how hard done by you are. Sometimes your loved ones genuinely care, they’re just shit at putting it across.
Get a sense of humour – find it all incredibly amusing. Raise the vibration around the discussion. None of this really matters!
What are you defending? If you feel as if you are being attacked it may be in response to your defensiveness. You’ve nothing to defend. Be open to hearing other points of view. You’re probably wrong and so am I. Isn’t that awesome?
Realise that what you think and what you do now MAY CHANGE. It has for me and boy do I feel a bit of a dick for some of what I’ve said in the past. Everything changes and evolves. Sticking to a rigid position is only going to make you look 71% more mental later.
Have fun – life is too short to argue about food or anything else for that matter. Importantly, find out how to defend yourself against fruit! 🙂
The RFS website is back but is now a .CO.UK rather than a .COM because it seems there are internet robots that steal domain names so they can charge you hundreds of millions of pounds to get it back to fund their robot drug addiction. Scum. Ho hum, who needs a .com anyway?
Also, I’ve now taken down my first ever book Me Raw: You Cooked to work on a re-write for a second edition. It’ll be even more sexy than the first I promise. I’ll wager an extra 84.233% more exciting.
Lastly, it feels good to be back. I’m going to post a video soon (very short for all you ADHDers out there) just giving you the heads up following my earlier confusion over the whole raw food thing and where it fits in my life at the moment. God, it’s almost TOO MUCH FUN.
Have a crazy day
This blog was written by Raw Food Scotland's previous owner, Emma Calvert. You can reach her at her new website, https://missmanifestation.com/