If I had a penny for every time this subject came up…I’d have about £5.63 by now.
So you’re dabbling with the whole raw food thang, you might even be doing it to the max. Feeling good. Feeling REALLY GOOD! You’ve got the energy, you’ve got the glow. You’re LOVING getting to grips with the green smoothies, making a mess with your vitamix, making an art form out of cramming more veggies in to the fridge than anyone has ever crammed in before. You’ve got it all going on and you’re almost HIGH with excitement and enjoyment.
Your partner doesn’t get it. I mean, he gets it but he just doesn’t ‘get it! He thinks you’ve changed. You’ve gone a bit mental. Why can’t you just eat normal? Why is there no room in the fridge? What are all these new books you’re reading and websites and videos? He feels left out. Forgotten. Like you’re judging him. He doesn’t want to eat raw. Can’t things just go back to how they used to be?
Frustrated. Why won’t he eat healthier? Doesn’t he understand the crap he’s eating? You feel as if things are changing between you both. You’re feeling so high. So light. So…confused. How is this going to work? Can you be around each other when you feel so distant?
ME! To tell you that there is a light at the end of the raw-cooked tunnel. It’s more than possible to live happily ever after at the dinner table no matter how bad things seem to get. No matter how big the gap between what you’re both eating.
Here are my top tips for raw and peace at the dinner table.
1. Check out online raw recipe forums to find raw versions of your partner’s favourite recipes e.g. raw pizza or burgers
2. Prepare decadent raw desserts that will satisfy even the pickiest of eaters
3. Have plenty of healthy snacks or raw treats available
4. Prepare a lovely salad to accompany your partner’s cooked evening meal
5. Leave raw food around the kitchen
6. Find a restaurant that will satisfy both your eating choices
7. Ask your partner if they’d agree to one raw meal per week/month. If so, involve them in the choice
8. Don’t get annoyed if your partner doesn’t like the raw food you’ve prepared or bought for them
9. Prepare mini raw dishes to accompany cooked dishes so that your partner has a variety to choose from
10. Don’t make your partner feel judged about what they choose to eat
11. Be gentle and accepting of your partner’s food choices
12. Don’t bore your partner by talking raw all the time. Have a few days off from the computer or raw books to make sure you have quality time together
13. Speak to your partner about the situations or foods that you feel jeopardize your ability to stay happily raw
14. If the price of your raw diet becomes an issue look in to alternative ways of reducing the cost such as paying for items in bulk with other raw foodists
15. Give praise and encouragement to your partner when he or she eats healthily – don’t make them feel like they have to eat raw for your approval…
I have an upcoming EXCLUSIVE interview with Raw Food Coach Karen Knowler on precisely this subject covering absolutely everything you need to know about living with a non-raw partner. It covers all my own tips and advice on what happened in my own relationship and how we overcame it to quit the raw-cooked arguing and get on with some happy meals (not McDonalds style obvs).
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This blog was written by Raw Food Scotland's previous owner, Emma Calvert. You can reach her at her new website, https://missmanifestation.com/