Yesterday morning, approximately 10.30am in my kitchen (at the sink if you want specifics):
Me: “Would you like some of my green smoothie darling?”
Husband: “No, it’s alright, I’ve had jammy dodgers for breakfast”
It’s fair to say my husband and I are at opposite ends of the health spectrum. Don’t get me wrong, he’s not chowing down on fast food or junk food 24/7 but when it comes to what we like to put in our bodies, we’re coming from completely different angles.
Is this a problem for the relationship?
Did it used to be?
Because I was seriously judgemental about what my husband chose to eat!
Because I couldn’t believe he would eat rubbish that was damaging his health.
So what did you do about it?
We argued. I lectured. He switched off. He continued to eat rubbish. I continued to be annoyed. We split up.
Yes really. Although we got back together again.
Oh, that’s good.
Yes it is. And I’ll tell you what. I quickly got over myself. Judging others for what they eat is SOOOOOOOOO last century. Nobody does that shit anymore!
Oh really? Why not?
Well because not only is judging people really quite rude but we don’t like to be judged for choosing to eat healthy food. We don’t know it all, we only know what works for us and we can’t force other people to eat healthy just cause we say so. It’s a personal journey isn’t it? We’re not all on the same path and it’s nice to respect people for the choices they make. Criticising people will usually backfire in that they won’t be open to trying new healthy things. Apart from anything else, you’re on this health kick right? What do you think is happening in your body when you hold on to negative energy about what someone else is doing? Just sayin’…
So you’re saying we should just be a shiny example ourselves and people will be more open?
Yes, that’s exactly what I’m saying. You eat what you want to eat and let your partner eat what he/she wants to eat. No lectures, no judging, just love. Be patient. Be open. Be the change you want to see in the world. You’ll be amazed at what transpires when you adopt this approach.
Can I find out more about what happened in your relationship when you went raw?
Yeah you can, check out my fabby ebook Me Raw: You Cooked
This blog was written by Raw Food Scotland's previous owner, Emma Calvert. You can reach her at her new website, https://missmanifestation.com/