Warning: I have consumed three coffees before writing this post. I just wanted to write something not food related (it’s allowed right?) to say that today I actively encourage you to break your own rules. What do I mean by that? Good question. I mean that for the past week I’ve been seriously going against my own grain, all the things I’ve told myself I ‘should’ be doing, I’ve deliberately told myself the opposite.
For example,
I shouldn’t be sleeping in until 11am – turns in to – I will get up when I feel like it.
I should go to the swimming pool today – turns in to – I will do whatever exercise I feel like. I might not do ANY!
I shouldn’t have another Om Bar – turns in to – I’ll have as many as I feel like and bloody enjoy it.
I should do a blog today – turns in to – I’ll blog when the mood takes me.
What I’m finding is that when I’ve deliberately told myself the opposite of what my brain tells me I SHOULD be doing at any given moment, the tension that’s created when I tell myself I must do something and I’m not doing it (and don’t really feel like it), completely dissipates! When that tension goes I find that I actually end up doing something and really enjoy it because I’m going with my flow. I’m going with how the mood takes me rather than being led by the thoughts in my head that are largely a product of conditioning.
You see some days I really feel like exercising and I enjoy it. Some days I don’t feel like it but I do it and I don’t enjoy it. Some days I have forty billion blog posts bursting to get out. Some days I can’t be arsed blogging ever again. And the quality of what I do reflects that…in everything! When you really FEEL like doing something, you and the rest of the world get so much more out of your doing it.
It’s so mind numbingly dull to be engaged in something you really don’t want to do because you feel you ‘should’ or you ‘must’. Argh. Who wants to live like that?
Be selfish when it comes to what you do for yourself. Did you know you only have one life (until your next one)? It’s over so quick. It’s happening right now!
Go with your flow. If your flow says no then just don’t go there, don’t even waste your time. You can’t swim upstream. Or you can but it’s not as much fun as flowing down stream on a giant inflatable banana screaming WOOOOOOOOOOO HOOOOOOOOOOOO!
There’s a really good book that covers this very subject and I highly recommend it. It’s called Fuck It and it captures the essence of doing whatever the mood takes you and to fuck with everything else.
And you might wonder well if I only do what I feel like I might end up lying in bed all day doing nothing. That’s not been my experience, you do stuff, stuff that moves you to do it and it’s actually quite motivational.
Try it for yourself and see…or don’t…fuck it!
🙂
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