So I’m single.
I know, I know, crazy isn’t it? A hot raw mamma like me, back.on.the.shelf. It’s almost a fucking tragedy. And I hummed and hawwed (sp?) over whether to have this conversation with you but then I thought, fuck it, there’s an element of having to talk about this what with the whole Me Raw: You Cooked thing. You know, that book I wrote, about living harmoniously with a non-raw partner? Yeah, that one.
And you might start thinking, well that was obviously a crock of shit, cause they split up. So yeah, some clarity and transparency required. And let’s be honest, this is a huge topic in the raw food world.
So let me begin by saying that no, raw food did not end my relationship with my husband. But did it play a part in me getting clearer on what I wanted out of life? Yes. Maybe. Would that have happened anyway, without raw food? Possibly. There’s really no way to tell.
Raw food wasn’t a problem for us in our relationship. Sure, at first it was. That’s why I wrote Me Raw: You Cooked, to show people how to overcome the major challenges. And we did. The food and eating differently was not an issue for us. But the follow up is that raw food can become a whole person journey. It can shape and mould you in ways that perhaps mean you grow at a different rate than you were before, or were destined to. That kind of shit is bound to affect your relationship.
Does that mean you’ll split up? Of course not. Absolutely not. Every relationship is totally different.
I know plenty of couples, PLENTY, where they eat differently and it has no major impact on the relationship. Meat eaters with vegans, raw with cooked, whatever. It’s down to the couple in the relationship and what they look for in a partner.
I will say this, I totally understand people that want to have a relationship with a person that has similar views and values. I get that. But, if someone said to me “Emma, I can’t go out with you because you eat too healthy/raw food”, then I’d think that person an idiot. Total and utter idiot…with love and respect obvs 🙂
So it’s not an outlook I have when looking for a partner. Let me clarify, this ISN’T a lonely hearts blog. I’m just saying that to me, there are more important aspects to a person than what goes on their plate!
I’m going to touch on this subject again soon, because I do think there are lots of different levels to it.
Meantime if you’re interested in getting the low-down about what happened during those first few months raw in our relationship, check out the sexy Me Raw: You Cooked.
This blog was written by Raw Food Scotland's previous owner, Emma Calvert. You can reach her at her new website, https://missmanifestation.com/